Starting Over Single, the blog

June 2024 Things have been calm lately. I am planning a getaway for my oldest son’s 16 th  Bday.  I have provided a safe and consistent environment for my boys where they understand that even though they have two addresses, that mom is still mom and still showing up the way she always has. They are finally finding a routine with the separation and their own lives. As far as dating, I’m not really doing it. I still have my friend dates and get togethers with the SOS crew and that has been giving me all I need. I am no longer in the “lonely” stage of the separation. I feel like we are finally getting somewhere here. My soon to be ex, PAUSE- Lets give him a name- well call him Lance, Lance and I have been moved to no speaking terms. We had a little falling out recently and ever since, He decides when and if he will speak to me. The silent treatment is his new tactic. May 2024 I am taking my children to school when my truck starts to overheat. My car is telling me to pull over immediately,

  SOS vol 6 -- SOS, The Crew Its time I introduce you to my crew! During this year of separation, I had a few friends who also were going through a shaky time or two and we just accidently, or coincidentally formed a bond. We showed up for one another, took each other on dates, laughed, cried, or just had a random sleep over. Whatever one of us needed we just were present in supporting one another. I jokingly named our group chat “Waiting to Exhale”, after rewatching the movie one day and realizing --- that’s what stage of life my friends and I were in! That was short-lived as we have since renamed ourselves “The SOS Crew”!! (aka Starting Over Single) So here they are in no specific order: Lisa AKA the mom of the crew . As a licensed therapist who is quick to call out the BS! She is the one who will ask us the questions that make you think. Not that we want to feel our feelings while inebriated but leave it to her… it’s going to happen. Lisa recently ended a 16 year on again

  SOS Vol 5 : A Series of Unfortunate Events I believe in signs and premonitions.  I am very connected to nature and intuition. This is something my mother and I share.  Every few years in my relationship, I’d have a vision of a snake. Sometimes I’d dream about it…or at other times the image would just appear when I’m deep in thought… the snake never looks the same in color or size. But shortly after, My soon to be EX Husband would get caught. So, I ALWAYS associated it with a Warning.  What u should know before hand: ·         Post the move out I am trying to be a cordial co-parent and a good mom as we have set a schedule for us to share the kids during the week. My kids were handling things well at first. So, I believed we could be family even though we were separated. ·         Daily he claims he still wants his family to me and ALL my family members. But once he found out that Q and I have been in touch and seeing each other about a couple of times weekly it’s a differen